The Looking Glass works 3 ways.
1.We imagine how we must appear to others.
2.We imagine the judgement of that appearance.
3.We develop our self through the judgments of others.
In the end it all boils down to acceptance into Society and face it we all want to be accepted. But certain types of acceptance isn't worth risking your life, dignity, health, family or finances over. Don't go trying to be the Jones's burying yourself in debt but Don't be afraid to Step out of your Shell either. By stepping out of the normal or your comfort zone you'll discover new things about yourself.
It's called "The Full on Experience" in Austrailia. The Full on Experience is a method of getting people to step outside of their comfort-zones or niche and challenge themselves. The method works like this:
Only we can makes things happen for ourselves. You have to control your state, which includes your mind, body, and emotions. By controlling your state, you can control my behavior, and by controlling your behavior, you can control your results.
How many of us would just jump at the chance to rappel down a 600Foot Cliff that was only secured by a tree, rope and harness? Not very many of us I'm sure. So how about if we take it a few steps smaller and into our own homes.
Let's activate our Reticular Activating System or RAS. This filters sensory information and is programmed by thoughts and beliefs.
Now let's do an RAS exercise.
*Stand up and go over to a wall
*Put your arms straight out to your sides
*Turn your upper body till it cannot go any further
* Make a mark on the wall with a pencil you can erase.
*Now close your eyes and think hard about being as flexible as a rubber band
*Turn again Keeping your eyes closed
*Now open them.
You should've stretched past your mark.
This is just a very small example of how we can over come our comfort zone, our niche and venture out into new things.
